Update from the suckerpunch
The most common objection I hear when helping people remove their guilt is something along the lines of "Hey wait! I was using that!" Believing this (or really any variant »
Don't steer with guilt
I've spoken at length about shifting guilt or dispelling guilt. What I haven't talked about, yet, is guilt itself. So let's talk about guilt. Guilt is one of those strange »
Shifting guilt
The posts so far have been less about confronting guilt, and more about different tools for shifting it. This is a valuable skill to generalize. The posts in this series »
Rest in motion
Many people seem to think the 'good' state of being, the 'ground' state, is a relaxed state, a state with lots of rest and very little action. Because they think »
Working yourself ragged is not a virtue
Let's get back to the "replacing guilt" series. Here's a quick recap of what we've covered so far: Part 1 was about replacing the listless guilt: if someone feels vaguely »
Interlude: Q&A on the EA forum
My writing time this week was spent answering questions on the effective altruism forum, so I don't have a new blog post in the "removing guilt" series this week. That »
Your "shoulds" are not a duty
I have a friend who, after reading my last two posts, still struggled to give up her shoulds. She protested that, if she stopped doing things because she should, then »
Not because you "should"
A few months ago, a friend of mine was describing her motivational issues to me. As an example, she explained she was having trouble making herself clean her room, despite »